Russian Women Forum: After the Process

RE: like a baby

2010-02-04T11:15:42-04:00

Hello! My name is Michael. I am from Sacramento, CA, USA. I have had a good experience with one dating agency in Russia. Their website - www.chooselady.com I saw the picture of lady who I liked. I was interested in her and last year I visited Russia. We are very happy. And now we are making fiancé visa for her. Hey, guys, I can tell some words about this agency. They support anti-scam program. They care about reputation. All ladies are REAL. Managers of the marriage agency check women-clients identity (passport data, marital status etc.). So, you will avoid possibility to write to a phantom woman. I know also that they provide such services as invitations to Russia, registration, apartment?s rent, booking of airline-, train- and bus tickets, transfer etc. Email: office@chooselady.com Or call: +7 906 3358481 (from 9.00 a.m. till 9 p.m. Moscow time) The managers will reply you on all your questions. Do not loose your chance! Write your letter right now!!!

RE: Four Years On

2009-09-05T16:19:36-04:00

[size=200][b]What is a Genuine Russian Woman?[/b][/size] I wanted to take a moment to re-visit this whole idea of what makes up a [b]?Genuine Russian Woman?.[/b] You have to understand that one of the most important ways to categorize women from a man?s perspective is to know if she is a ?Supporter? or a ?Competitor?. When I describe things at this deeper level we can for now just completely ignore nationalities? Russian Girl, American Girl or Andromeda Galaxy Girl.. makes no difference because the fundamentals are all the same. So, let me cut to the MOST IMPORTANT fundamental thing you need to know.. ALL WOMEN are walking Baby Making Machines? (And if any woman you currently know wants to TRY to deny or de-emphasize this then they are completely full of big dog do do. Try to imagine you as a guy wanting to deny that you have a D*CK! It doesn?t work too well does it?) ?Supporter? Women are completely in touch with this ?baby making machinery? reality. They understand that to make the BEST Babies requires the BEST Husbands with the BEST Loving Environment possible. When you read a common Internet agency or Dating site profile on any number of Russian girls how often have you seen the phrase, ?I want to make a happy family?. I?m willing to bet that you?ve seen this or a variation of it quite a few times. Now .. does it get any more obvious then this? These women did NOT say.. ?I want to be a liberated and sexually free woman who focuses on MY CAREER so that I can screw myself out of the most fertile years of my life and then go to an expensive pregnancy clinic covered by my health plan during my mid to late 30?s in order to try and get my older and deteriorating eggs artificially inseminated with some anonymous guy?s sperm de-thawed from a test tube.? Do you need me to continue with this wonderful illustration? I don?t think so.. Women who are in-touch with their inner ?baby making machinery? don?t mess around my friends. They want what you want too.. Love, Stability, Understanding, Sex, Good Future and Family.. AND they are more honest about it as well. Now this doesn?t mean that you are going to be able to Russia or the FSU and tell a girl like this right away that you love her ?so let?s get hitched and make babies now!? No but you will still need to play the game of love? And it?s there for a very good reason too. She needs to know you respect her BUT at the same time she needs to know that you are not afraid to be a leader who will keep the family ship on course come hell or high water. I?m not going to bullsh*t you cause most of the time this is a real challenge to pull off but with time and experience you will understand why and how you can hit the right triggers to spark the right magic. There are women all around the world that fit this qualification of understanding their ?inner baby making machinery? but I am focusing primarily on Russian women because they not only deeply have these qualities but a big percentage of them are incredibly beautiful too! So hopefully you get a sense for what a genuine Russian Woman is? It?s not so hard eh? If you are around one and you feel that baby making machine speculating through her behavior towards you then that?s all you really need to know. She shows respect to herself because she honors the awesome power of that machine within her. The way she also behaves towards you as a man will also directly reflect this and it is the BEST way for you to discover what a Genuine Russian Woman is.. or isn?t.. Note: When you have a quiet moment I want you to seriously close your eyes and imagine what the woman I?m talking about looks, sounds, and feels like.. because this will help you answer this question in more ways then you can possibly imagine. Now because we are spending lots of energy talking about motherhood and family this doesn?t mean that you or her are expected to create a kid production factory any time soon. It just means that when it does happen, having children along with her marriage to you will BE THE DEFINING moment of her life? as it should be for you guys too. From marriage to conception to birth to raising children.. Her ability to be a woman, a mother and a wife is her ?Prime Directive?. If you as a Man truly wants to know what a Genuine Russian Woman is at her deepest level then you must ultimately walk this life long path with her since your answer will only grow more profound with time. If you?ve ever seen the way Russian mothers take care of their kids you would completely understand what I mean. To me there is no comparision anywhere else in the world with the simple, loving and powerful motherly energy they project.. If any of you Men are a little like me.. and if you are fortunate to see and FEEL this yourself.. you will probably stand back in complete awe and realize that you are most likely witnessing one of the most beautiful and loving manifestations in all of the creation. And you will never forget it. [url=http://www.russianworldforums.com/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=84][b]What is a Genuine Russian Woman?[/b][/url]

RE: Four Years On

2009-05-13T13:39:52-04:00

I know the best dating website - www.chooselady.com They support anti-scam program. They care about reputation. All ladies are REAL. Managers of the marriage agency check women-clients identity (passport data, marital status etc.). So, you will avoid possibility to write to a phantom woman. Email: office@chooselady.com Or call: +7 906 3358481 (from 9.00 a.m. till 9 p.m. Moscow time) The managers will reply you on all your questions. Do not loose your chance! Write your letter right now!!!

RE: Can you sue the Dept of Homeland Sec. for AOS?

2009-01-18T14:58:16-04:00

With "top workers" like Whitey Mo, no wonder USCIS is in a shambles. Anyone who doesn't know the difference between the possessive pronoun "your" and the contraction "you're" really doesn't give me much confidence in the ability of the USCIS to do anyting. You are a fraud. You are also probably black and uneducated. If you are truly an example of the people who work at USCIS, we may as well give up all hope of ever acccomplishing anything in our cases. It is no wonder there is such a backlog of cases. We put the stupidest people in charge of reading and handling the documents when they do not have the ability to read and write to begin with.

like a baby

2008-09-03T09:41:57-04:00

Well whenever mom is away my stepson thinks it is playtime. My wife and I are on the same page about some issues but not all and he seems to know what he can and cannot get away with when he is with me. I am glad he is at the age where he needs his privacy because it gives me some time to relax. Three years ago there was no relaxing at any time. :grin:

like a baby

2008-09-02T18:21:28-04:00

Lorenzo said:

Zosya_2, or child rearing advice. Her child is my stepchild, so I think I deserve to be heard. After all, I was a teenager once, back in the last century. Every person is different in the way they raise their children. I try to teach what I think is proper behavior but I think because I grew up in the 1960's the times have changed. There are still the same issues such as getting good grades, doing homework and knowing the consequences of being sexually active at 15 or 16.

My son is a step child to my husband and we had a lot of disagreement on the way of disciplining him etc. I can be very strict with my son, sometimes too harsh with him, but when I saw my husband doing the same I couldn't help myself but to go into overprotective mood. I don't think it has something to do with him being a step-dad. I saw the same happening in my auntie's family and she and her husband are biological parents. With time I had to restrict myself and not interfere when my husband was setting some rules, then my son felt betrayed by me. It was very difficult situation and often I felt like I'm between a rock and a hard place. That is my inside in just this one situation, I hope it helps you to understand. Probably she wants to talk to others about the child issues because she is not comfortable with herself first of all, like I was.

like a baby

2008-09-02T15:10:52-04:00

Why would it be exactly "reasurance" or doubting advices she got from husband if she discuss the same issues with her friends? That's just normal females talks: - he said that.. I said that ... what do you think about that .. how it was in your case and so on.. Why do feel some sort of "jealousy" ? Beside her friends may be don;t give her a feeling of beeing "like a baby" because they were in the same position once upon a time

like a baby

2008-09-02T07:51:34-04:00

Zosya_2 said:

I understand your frustration, but may be you can understand me, when all of us become labeled on example of one particular woman. We are not the same.

Zosya is quite correct IMV. Some people simply need more support and reassurance than others. I don't think it has much to do with nationality or sex. Having said that, as others have posted, uprooting oneself from all that was familiar and all one's support structures and re-locating to a foreign country where one is almost entirely reliant upon one individual, is no easy task. It takes enormous courage, patience and determination. Perhaps your wife feels she's not getting enough reassurance and support from you and is therefore turning to others for what she perceives she's lacking? FWIW, my wife often 'felt like a baby' during her first year here. She would be made of stone if she hadn't. But it does get better and easier with time. Give it time. I'm sure things will improve.

like a baby

2008-09-02T03:19:04-04:00

Lorenzo said:

She trusts other Russian Women and will ask them about their experiences with certain issues when she doubts the accuracy of my advice. It can be anything from seeing a doctor, getting her drivers license, financial matters or child rearing advice.

Zosya_2 said:

I can't relate to that even though I'm a RW, for the first few years my husband was the only sorce of advise for me. I understand your frustration

Bodine has given you the full spill for the continuous development of our relationships with our wives but your last comment above gives me the impression that there is lack of communication between you two. I know a RW here in the UK, who every time somebody in her family is feeling sick, she is calling her Doctor friend in Russia to ask for advice, instead from visiting her family Doctor who BTW is Free here! From what little I know about her private life she used to do the same and ask her friends for financial advice and other things??.. now she is divorced after 3 years of marriage. Zosya made it very clear that in the early years of the relationship the husband is the person where the RW will look for advice and help until she been here for some years and has acquired her own knowledge.

like a baby

2008-09-02T01:44:43-04:00

Lorenzo said:

Zosya_2, She trusts other Russian Women and will ask them about their experiences with certain issues when she doubts the accuracy of my advice. It can be anything from seeing a doctor, getting her drivers license, financial matters or child rearing advice. Her child is my stepchild, so I think I deserve to be heard. After all, I was a teenager once, back in the last century. Every person is different in the way they raise their children. I try to teach what I think is proper behavior but I think because I grew up in the 1960's the times have changed. There are still the same issues such as getting good grades, doing homework and knowing the consequences of being sexually active at 15 or 16. These are just a few examples. I don't know why my wife would think her friends know more about things like traffic laws in certain states and other things that are specific to the US. I think she does this because she needs reassurance from another RW who has experienced the same issues. Maybe I should not question it and let her do this if it makes her comfortable.

I can't relate to that even though I'm a RW, for the first few years my husband was the only sorce of advise for me. I understand your frustration, but may be you can understand me, when all of us become labeled on example of one particular woman. We are not the same.

like a baby

2008-09-01T22:44:51-04:00

like a baby

2008-09-01T21:49:28-04:00

Lorenzo said:

Do you feel this too?

Lorenzo- Maybe you need to be a bit more specific with that question. But for a generic overview of the past 3 years of marriage with my wife, this is what I can summize regarding this particular arena. One of the things that is required of us to recognize is the fact that these women are already set in their ways. The added ingredient of having to adjust to a new environment will incite a lot of apprehension and skepticism on their part. They will all be aware that a thought process is forefront prior to reacting because of the process of adjustment. Where reactions used to be second nature back home, now they have to process things before they react. This period will be such an unnatural situation where they may do things contrary to what we say that gives them an appearance of being stubborn. Are Russian women prone to be a bit more stubborn than any other women? Yes and No. Yes, if compared to women in our society, and No, they aren't, if compared to other immigrating women. As for taking advice from me, there are certain aspects of our lives where my wife will not even dare second guess what I tell her. There are also certain things she would discuss at lenght with me just to massage the issue at hand for better understanding, or on a very rare occasion; if the matter is not private, she may try and get a third opinion from one of her AW/RW friend. There have been times where my wife felt she knew better despite my urging to the contrary. Unless it's detriment to our lives, I give my wife the space and let her find out herself. I believe this is a necessary evil for both of us to learn and earn each other's trust. I aspire to have my wife trust her instincts and challenge me in some of our discussion. I do not want her to take everything I say and think as gospel. I find nothing more annoying than having a woman do everything I say. She knows she have my utmost support in her progression. She also knows where she need to draw the line in our relationship, [i]vis-a-vis[/i]. If heaven forbid anything happens to me, or during the times when I'm not around, I would like the comfort of knowing my wife have enough confidence and fortitude in herself that she will not be helpless to make decisions on her own. I always encourage her to make decisions on her own with matters that will not catastrophically impact our lives and relationship. Progress and growth, whether it's relationship or the people in it, is stunted under a one-sided controlled environment. When that happens, the relationship weakens and both people wither away...

like a baby

2008-09-01T19:47:05-04:00

Lorenzo said:

I just think many RW are stubborn and will only look to another RW or an authority figure (not a husband) for advice? Do you feel this too?

Again, what does it have to do with other women? If your wife stubborn and won't listen to your advises it is just your bad luck.

like a baby

2008-09-01T17:11:04-04:00

No, Wiz we communicate very well. It is just that she thinks she has received better advice from other people.

like a baby

2008-09-01T16:21:32-04:00

It is obvious that when a RW moves to another country she has to start her new life from zero. It will take sometime for her to adjust and complete her orientation and of course she depends on her husband to help her in this process. I will agree with you that Russian women are very stubborn and have the tendency not to listen to their foreign husbands and trust better one of their own! I had to face similar situation myself while I was in Russia, before and after the wedding, but my wife soon realised that she gets better advice from me than her semi-ignorant friends. When we had to apply for her Visa to the UK Visa centre in Moscow my wife was told by her friends that she has to change her passport before she can travel on Aeroflot to go to Moscow. Of course that was rubbish and she used her internal passport with no problems. Unfortunately people in Russia, when they have to contact some kind of Authority, especially women tent first to ask friends for information regarding this matter instead of going to the horses is mouth to find accurate information. In Russia today and Hellen will verify that you can find most of the necessary information on line but the problem is that many of those at work have little knowledge of the regulations or the Law and when you ask questions you dont always get the right answers. Are you sure that there is no lack of communication between you and your wife and you do understand each other well?

like a baby

2008-09-01T14:37:39-04:00

Stubborn? Not at all. We just really know anything better than males :-P:

like a baby

2008-09-01T14:17:51-04:00

Before she left Ukraine my wife said she would be just like a baby in the US not knowing anything. Why after 3 years do I feel like the one who does not know anything? I just think many RW are stubborn and will only look to another RW or an authority figure (not a husband) for advice? Do you feel this too?

Four Years On

2008-08-30T20:49:12-04:00

Sounds great Wes, tell Lora I say hello and wish you both a good Labour Day weekend :smile:

Four Years On

2008-08-30T18:13:54-04:00

:king: 6th Year! Well just to update this a bit it was six years ago on August 28, 2002 that I received the first of many letters from Lora in responce to one I had sent her through Free Personals. Looking ahead to September we will celebrate our 5th Wedding Anniversary and on my Birthday in October it will have been again 6 years since we first met at Borispol airport outside of Kiev, Ukranie. Looking back it seems hard to realize that we have been through so much together over this period together. Anyway just wanted to added this note to our history here. Wes and Lora.

Four Years On

2008-08-02T11:38:37-04:00

Do the authorities in Canada use only Donkey mail? My God they take very long time.... like ours......6 months for a resident card!